17 Strong Tips For Having A Good Relationship (Part 1)

The high rate of broken relationships in the world is alarming, more divorce, heartbreaks and the rest is becoming more rampant and I ask myself “what have we done to stop this? Or are we just going to sit and watch and do nothing?” One thing we must know is that a loving long-term romantic relationship is one of the surest routes to long term happiness, peace and security. But this doesn’t just happen naturally, certain skills are needed. So I compiled these skills for your reading pleasure,
please take these tips/skills very seriously and applied them in your relationships. Note: sex mentioned here is only meant for the married couples!

Here they are:

•    Love: 

Without love, time turns couples into enemies or strangers. I usually hear people say things like “I am in this relationship because I want this and that” and in many occasion Love is not included and it marvels me a lot. love makes anything  possible. When there is love between two people, the tug-of-war disappears, and compromise and sacrifice become meaningless concepts because what’s best for one is best for the other. When you love one another as much as yourself, you won’t do anything bad that will harm your partner, instead you will celebrate the opportunity to help your partner’s inner radiance shine more brightly.

• Know God: 

Allow God to play a leading role in that relationship, there is a popular song I use to listen to when I was a kid, the lyrics goes like this: “When Jesus is in the family, happy happy happy ooooo. When the devil is in the family, trouble trouble trouble ooo”. (paraphrased: it can be any relationship) And that’s so true, invite God into that relationship of yours and you will see the dramatic change in your relationships.

• Expectations: 

Discuss what you each expect out of the relationship, what you’re committing to, and what your respective roles will be. Expect ups and downs in even the best relationship, and realize that love isn’t an absolute that you’re either in or out of but something that ebbs and flows over time.

•  Show Appreciation For Your Partner: 

Let your partner know on a regular basis what it is that you like most about them – what you admire, what makes you proud, what their strengths are in your eyes. Building a romantic relationship isn’t just about the initial bonding – it’s about encouraging and supporting each other’s growth over the course of your lives. Help your partner achieve his or her potential by constantly building them up.

• Intimacy: 

Work at strengthening your closeness, because there is no stasis; if you aren’t getting closer together, you’re drifting further apart. Foster intimacy though honesty, acceptance, and trust. Spend time together, stare into each other’s eyes. Also Show some affection by engaging in Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking down the street – give your partner a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for them. The littlest touch can be as important, or even more important, than the longest night of sexual intimacy.

• Openness:

Open communication is necessary to genuinely know your partner and let them know you. You can’t help your partner utilize their strengths, move in the direction of their passions, and realize their dreams if you don’t know their strengths, passions, and dreams. You also need to discuss attitudes toward the topics that cause nearly all relationship problems: gender roles, money, relatives, sex, and children (for the married).

• Caring (Giving Gift and By Being there for your Partner): 

Be as concerned for their well-being as for your own, and look for opportunities to make their life better. Help them to succeed, and celebrate their successes with them. Lets break it down:

   

   (a).  Give Gifts: Take advantages of opportunities to give material tokens of your love. Just the right book picked up at the bookstore, a flower, a special dessert, a piece of the latest jewelry or clothing you noticed at the store – anything small or large that tells them you were thinking of them. You might also leave a love note for them, or send them an SMS at work to  saying “I love you” – again, the little reminder that they’re always on your mind will help your partner feel better about themselves and secured in the relationship. Hmmm… very interesting!

    

   (b).    Be there for your partner: It’s obvious what you need to do when your partner faces a major life challenge like the loss of a job or the death of a loved one. But it’s just as important to be supportive when your partner faces life’s little challenges, too – an argument at work, a rough commute, a misplaced check. Don’t let yourself be a doormat, and definitely don’t stand for physical or verbal abuse, but thicken your skin a little and be the voice of calm and reason when chaos strikes. Listen to what’s bothering them and offer whatever help – even if it’s just sympathy – you can.

•          Respect:

    Respect your partner, and act in a way that earns their respect, both inside and outside the relationship. Respect them even when you’re disagreeing. Listen without judgment. Accept them as they are, and don’t try to change them, but help them to change in ways they want to change. Focus on your partner’s strengths and cultivate a high opinion of them.

Citation: www.howtolive.com, www.lifehack.org

Please if you have any suggestions or comments on this topic, we do welcome it share it below or contact us for more tips/skills on improving your relationship to a greater height.

Enoch Okon

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