17 Strong Tips For Having A Good Relationship (Part 2)

• Self-Respect: 

It’s much easier for someone to like you when you like yourself. Don’t compromise your authenticity or sacrifice who you are for the sake of the relationship. And don’t put your partner’s needs above your own; treat each other as equally important. Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special considerations you’d be unwilling to offer in return.

• Attraction: 

I urge you to also take this one also seriously (am not saying all other tips should not be taken seriously). This is one of the major problems in relationships around the world it’s what I call WAR OF ATTRACTION, you find one partner attracted to something that his/her partner hates or is not attracted to.  Remember that we don’t choose what we’re attracted to, but we do choose whether to be attractive or not. Do the things that your partner finds attractive, and tell your partner all the things you find attractive, inside and out. Don’t hide them, sit down together and lists them out one after the other. I tell you from there you will get to realize what your partner likes and what he/she dislike.

• Constructive Disagreement: 

It hurts me to see and hear people who claim to be in a relationship abuse each other, bitterly criticize, blame and hurt each other. It clearly shows that there is no understanding between them. A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Unless you married, engaged or in a relationship with a robot, your partner comes pre-loaded with a whole range of human failures and foibles.  Learn to recognize and appreciate your partner’s quirks for what they are: an essential part of who they are as people. Since our weaknesses are often at the core of our deepest insecurities, make sure you don’t pick on or otherwise go out of your way to highlight your partner’s flaws. When disagreeing, don’t abuse, don’t criticize, don’t blame, and don’t be hurtful or bitter it only brings destruction in the relationship. Learn to manage differences and conflict through communication, negotiation, and cooperation.

•   Progress: 

View the relationship as an opportunity for you two to co-create your ideal lives together. Be committed to the continual development of each of you individually as well as the relationship itself. Look for opportunities to align your desires and goals with each other and to create shared meaning.

  

• Positivity:

Have the celebration of life and of each other be the emotional tone of the relationship. Say positive things to and about your partner at least five times more often than you say negative things. Especially when things don’t go well with the both of you, always learn to be saying only positive things and watch things turn around for your good. Read the bible always and pray with each other.

• Teamwork: 

Teamwork is all about sharing, making decisions together, etc with the interests of both given equal weight. In the best relationships, each person cares as much about the other as about themselves. Don’t keep your likes and dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner THAT IS TEAMWORK. More than that, be sure to share more with your partner than you do with anyone else (Third Party). While there is certainly a need for some personal space in even the closest relationship, give as much of yourself and your time as you can bear to your partner.

• Gratitude: 

Never you for any reason take the relationship for granted. It will be a GREAT mistake and error. Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little blessings he or she has brought into your life. Remember that, if you’re happy in your relationship, your partner is doing a thousand little things for you every day to make your relationship work (as, hopefully, you are for them). Never take that for granted – a relationship is work of the highest order, and the second you stop it starts to slide away.

• Effort: 

There must be a considerable about of effort applied to keep  your relationship working or lasting, never give room for laziness, carelessness and pride to come in and making you relent your effort. Most of today’s broken relationships are due to lack of effort on both part. Good relationships don’t just happen if you think so. Take for a example a wheel barrow, when using to work on the farm it requires a certain amount of effort mounted on it to make it move from one  place to the other and when that effort is not available the wheel barrow stands still and that will slow down the pace of work on that particular farm. So don’t joke with this particular tip.

• Tell your partner you love them: 

Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your partner. A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted, cared for, and secure in your relationship.

Citation: www.howtolive.com, www.lifehack.org

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Enoch Okon

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