Ø THE ENVIRONMENT (this does not give you an automatic ticket to success and it’s not a justification for failure):
Yes it does affect people, but the big difference is how you see yourself mentally and what you choose to believe (in yourself or the your environment). When I talk about the environment, I mean the people around you, what they do, how they are doing it, how they leave their lives, successfully or not successfully (failures), their mentality (thoughts), and so forth and so on. And these very much affects the youngsters (younger generations) first and as they grow to adulthood things around them looks the same as they saw it many years back when they were kids (NO CHANGE). I have lived in an environment of thugs, gangsters, negative people etc, and I tell you it really
affected me as a teenager, not as if I would have turned a gangster or what, nope! That wouldn’t have happen because of the fact that I knew who I was and who am going to be in future and secondly my lovely parent wouldn’t have allowed it to happen. Seeing some of my childhood friends giving in to the pressure (I call the ‘system’) it hurts and at the other end it boost me up. Living in an environment that tells you “You can’t make it, your father, mother, cousin, neighbor, childhood friends couldn’t make it, why should you, stick to the rule ” it is implanted in their brains and minds that needs a very strong determination to overcome. Parents who had these experiences tend to unleash these habits to their children, for example alcoholic and violent parents will tell their kids that it is okay to get drunk and get violent instead of coping with life’s problems and working hard to solve it. I usually get offended when people do something they know is wrong and that it is killing them and you ask them why are you doing this? You will first of all get this look on their faces “don’t you know?” and they will tell you “This is the normal thing!” Look guys there’s nothing like ‘This is normal thing’ it is you who decides the NORMALITY of that thing in your life.
affected me as a teenager, not as if I would have turned a gangster or what, nope! That wouldn’t have happen because of the fact that I knew who I was and who am going to be in future and secondly my lovely parent wouldn’t have allowed it to happen. Seeing some of my childhood friends giving in to the pressure (I call the ‘system’) it hurts and at the other end it boost me up. Living in an environment that tells you “You can’t make it, your father, mother, cousin, neighbor, childhood friends couldn’t make it, why should you, stick to the rule ” it is implanted in their brains and minds that needs a very strong determination to overcome. Parents who had these experiences tend to unleash these habits to their children, for example alcoholic and violent parents will tell their kids that it is okay to get drunk and get violent instead of coping with life’s problems and working hard to solve it. I usually get offended when people do something they know is wrong and that it is killing them and you ask them why are you doing this? You will first of all get this look on their faces “don’t you know?” and they will tell you “This is the normal thing!” Look guys there’s nothing like ‘This is normal thing’ it is you who decides the NORMALITY of that thing in your life.
There is always a way out of every situation in life, pay a close attention to what am about to say now. Until you decide to actively challenge those habits that affects you succeeding in life, you will remain stagnant blaming everybody but yourself of your problems. Make a move by not allowing your environment affect you negatively, refuse to be them, refuse ‘the normal thing’, choose to be different from them, BE THE LIGHT in the midst of the darkness surrounding you, be the flower that BLOOMS in the midst of thick and heavy weeds around it. Format your mind and your brain from every junk you might have heard all through the years of your life. I ask one of my friends who had this kind of experience but made it through, “How did you make it?” he told me “I decided to break the norm in my neighborhood (environment) by changing myself, the way I think (Mentality), and how I do things and everything changed around me”. Just one word I will say to you is that MAKE A CHANGE BY CHANGING YOURSELF. I strongly believe you can make it, stay focused, be determined and GO FOR IT!!! Cheers!!
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