What To Do With A Broken Relationship! (5 Powerful Steps Part 3)

STEP 3: BE WILLING TO SUFFER

'Therefore, since Christ suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same mind" (1 Peter 4:1). Jesus Christ was the God-man dying for the sins of the whole world. In that sense, the suffering of Christians could never be like His. But there are many ways in which we can follow Christ's example. Suffering in a Christlike manner includes the following characteristics: commitment, courage, confidence, empathy, and endurance.

Commitment. Christ was determined to do the Father's will, regardless of the suffering (Matthew 26:39). It is our heavenly Father's will that we live peaceably with all people (Romans 12:18). When conflicts arise - and they will - we should be committed to work toward reconciliation, knowing that suffering is a part of the process.

Courage. Christ knew that His suffering would be great, but He faced it bravely (Luke 9:51). When things go wrong between us and others, we often lack the heart to confront the problems because of the pain. Even though suffering may be involved, we must courageously resolve the issues. 

Confidence. Jesus placed Himself into the hands of the Father, in spite of the things He suffered (1 Peter 2:23). Oh, how difficult this is for us to do! Yet this is the key to getting the best out of the worst kind of situation. When we put our confidence in God, He not only strengthens us, but He also works everything out for our good (Romans 8:28).

Empathy. Jesus identified with us completely our human sorrow (Isaiah 53:3,4). HIS expressions of understanding and compassion attracted people who needed to be reconciled to God. We too can greatly influence the people we are alienated from when we share their problems and pain. It may help them to accept us if they notice that we hurt when
they hurt.

Endurance. Christ faced His suffering with patient endurance, and so must we (Hebrews 12:1-3). Suffering because of others is very hard to accept especially in broken relationships. Criticism, misunderstanding, and rejection cause pain t.hat we naturally seek to avoid. But if personal conflicts are to be resolved, the hurt involved in the process must be endured. Nobody likes to suffer. But it's worth it if that's what it takes to regain a lost friendship or repair a broken marriage. Yes, repairing broken relationships is a painful process. But it is possible if we are prepared to accept the suffering.

Thinking It Over. Where and why did all this suffering begin? (see Genesis 3). How can a genuine expression of empathy break down barriers of bitterness and hate? Can you recall specific ways you have willingly suffered in order to restore shattered relationships?

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Enoch Okon

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